Writer, journalist, novelist, giver of advice

This is where I write about pretty much everything I love; usually emotion, because I think that’s where we all connect. I write about depression because I have depression, and I think it’s good to talk about it. Sharing can bring us out of the dark and into the light. That’s why I wrote a book about it. I was agony aunt for the Sunday Times for years (check out the Advice page, where you can find all the columns) but these days you can write to me here. I can’t reply to every letter, (I’d never leave my desk) but I will answer one a week and post it. I never reveal names or personal details, so please don’t worry about that, and if you don’t want your letter to be included on the website, do tell me. I would hate to upset anybody. It doesn’t matter whether you want to join in or not. Sometimes, it’s just good to get our thoughts down on paper.

Victoria Health

  When my daughter was a teenager, she spent a great deal of time thinking about appearance, just like every other teenage girl in the known universe. I’m too fat, my hair is too frizzy, my face is too round, and my eyes are too small. Which may sound like a form of narcissism, but […]



When people ask me how I am, I tend to take the question seriously (some would say, too literally) and answer truthfully. In some circles, this is plain bad manners unless you’re hopping around happily like the Duracell bunny because, really, it isn’t a question at all, more of a way of passing the time. […]

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Losing My Identity

I wrote this post for the website, welldoing.org, which is a fantastic (and fascinating) collection of emotional wisdom and advice. The photograph is of me on my allotment because being a gardener is one of the identities I love Quite recently, I lost my identity, which sounds rather careless given that I hadn’t, until some […]

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